Cass & Emma
Jan, 28, 2026
EP 251: Q&A: "How Do I Prioritize Myself In a Relationship?"
In this week's episode we're answering one of YOUR questions with a combination of expert tips
and personal experience.
The Question: "I’m 22 and in my first long-term relationship with a partner I truly love.
Everything is healthy and supportive, but I’ve noticed I’ve started deferring to his routines
and preferences instead of my own. I miss parts of myself, like how I used to spend my free
time and make plans just for me. How do I stay true to myself while still making room for my relationship?"
What We Cover in This Episode:
- Losing yourself in a relationship. Why this is common in early long-term relationships and how it can happen even when the partnership is healthy and loving.
- Staying true to yourself while partnered. Why maintaining your own identity, routines, and desires takes intention in a committed relationship.
- People-pleasing and resentment. How deferring to a partner’s needs and preferences can slowly lead to disconnection and frustration.
- Identifying what you’ve stopped prioritizing. How to recognize the hobbies, values, and personal time that have taken a backseat.
- Solo needs vs relationship needs. Understanding the difference between individual fulfillment and shared intimacy in a long-term relationship.
- How to communicate your needs. Practical language for talking to your partner about independence, boundaries, and personal time without blame.
- Following through with boundaries. Why awareness isn’t enough and how to actually implement change in your daily life.
- Rebuilding a relationship with yourself. Why solo time, self-dates, and personal routines support emotional health and relationship satisfaction.
- Why this improves intimacy. How staying connected to yourself strengthens attraction, communication, and long-term relationship success.
Whether you’re seriously considering going or just want the inside scoop, this episode answers the questions everyone has but rarely asks.
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