If sex in your long-term relationship feels expected, routine, or disconnected, you’re not alone. In Part 2 of our 50 best sex tips for 2026 series, we talk about desire, pressure, and how to build a more satisfying sex life that actually feels good.

This episode is about when sex starts to feel like something you’re doing because you’re supposed to. Going through the motions. Having sex because it feels expected. Checking boxes. Trying to be a good partner. Forcing yourself to want it. And still wondering why it doesn’t feel good.

What We Cover in This Episode:

• Doing what you think you’re supposed to do. Why “good partner” sex often disconnects you from what you actually want and feel.
• Going through the motions. How routine, obligation, and autopilot sex quietly drains desire.
• Having sex because it feels expected. Why expectation creates pressure and shuts desire down.
• Checking boxes instead of tuning in. How tracking frequency, effort, or outcomes pulls you out of connection.
• Forcing yourself to want it. Why trying to manufacture desire backfires.
• Trying to be a good partner. How people-pleasing and self-abandonment show up in sex.
• Wondering why it still doesn’t feel good. Why “fine” sex can still feel empty and what actually changes that.

Whether you’re seriously considering going or just want the inside scoop, this episode answers the questions everyone has but rarely asks.

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